The title of this article just seems so counter-intuitive; does it not? In relationships of all sorts we ask each other questions and hope for honest answers, right? Well, actually the answer is not always yes. In fact, in many cases it is best to find a way to stop yourself from giving a direct and honest answer because the consequences may be too painful for everyone involved. Perhaps you are thinking that this clinical psychologist has finally lost her head. I don’t believe that I have. Stay with me just a little bit longer and you may just end up agreeing with me.
Consider the following questions:
1. Do I look fat in this dress?
2. Do you think that I should leave my husband?
3. Am I starting to show my age?
4. Do you think my wife is having an affair?
5. Are you attracted to my boyfriend?
6. Would you date her if she and I broke up?
7. Do I look tired?
8.Which of my kids do you think is most talented?
This list could go on and on. The point that I am trying to make here is that there are no right answers to these questions and your answers can easily lead to misunderstandings, hurt feelings or simply bad advice.
So, what do I suggest you do when you are asked these questions:
1. Change the topic.
2. Act unsure of yourself and the answer.
or if all else fails
3. Act like you didn’t hear the question.
Hey, I’m not suggesting that we lie and be avoidant. Instead, I’m suggesting that sometimes less is more.